In sum, you can't do anything until you get an actual patent. A patent application, whether provisional or not, does not allow you to do anything.
n1. Will B get the benefits of her provisional patent?
A patent application does not itself have any benefits so B does not have any actual benefits. Whether B can get a patent is somewhat complicated, but in a nutshell, B could only get a patent if it was the first to invent (note that US law will be different starting next year in this respect).
n2. Can A force B not to use the term 'patent pending' for the idea?
No. As long as B has filed a patent application and the application is active, it can say 'patent pending'. Regardless, this is not something that you should be worrying about as claiming that something is patent pending provides no benefits.
n3. Can A cancel B's benefits about her provisional patent?
No. That is up to the patent office. You can tell the patent office that your patent application is relevant to B's application but you cannot do anything else.
n4. If B tries to convert her provisional patent into a non-provisional patent earlier than A, can it be done without A's notice?
Yes, but this is also something that you should not worry about since it doesn't matter whether B's application is provisional or not.