Being part of the game while being an outsider

You focus yourself too much on entrepreneurs that succeeded than on yourself or your product.

Many startups started outside startup hubs, then decided to move to one later... or not!

Most startup started with a guy like you, an outsider. Before becoming the market leader, the reference. Even Google was ignored by the press for years. Microsoft struggled. Apple too, more than one time.

Well my startup is located in Utah - not really known as a startup hub, but we do have some good companies here. My cofounder and I didn't really know any of them when we started out but we made an effort to get out of our office and network when possible. Through that we heard about a local Y-Combinator/Techstars-esque incubator that we were accepted in to and made a lot of good connections. We've since raised some more money and things are going well.

I wouldn't really worry too much about who other people know. I'm only semi familiar with most of the names you listed. If you feel people are too ignorant, take the time to help educate them. Once you really get in to some of this startup stuff you find there is a lot of information, but if you don't know where to look in the beginning it's not always the easiest info to find. Try seeing if you can give talks at your local meetings and talk about Customer Development or something like that.

I'm not sure what your goal is. Being "part of the game" isn't really a goal in itself. Really all that stuff is more the flash and glitz of startup life. Build a good company and people will take notice regardless of where you live. Being in some of these hubs also introduces a lot of artificial noise I think. Look at the advantages of your location and try to play off those instead of lamenting all the disadvantages.

It means you have to adjust some of the things you read about because it's generally written from that perspective of being in Silicon Valley, but companies come from all over the world. I'd say the biggest thing is to start making connections where you live. Who are the successful companies? I bet the founders/leaders would give you some time to discuss the local situation if you ask.

Perhaps you could focus on virtual relationships. Start commenting on the blogs of some entrepreneurs you respect. At some point the conversations can get more personal. I have "met" many people this way who continue to be sounding boards and advisors.

Sorry if this is a stupid answer, but "Don't be part of the game" and you'll do just fine.

The location is just a small set-back, there are startups & startup hubs everywhere, some connections are even purely virtual.

Ryerson University in Toronto saw a need and established the Digital Media Zone, maybe you should create something similar in your home town. The company I currently work with, Feedbackers.biz, was established because the founders could not find any other service providing international, unbiased & quick feedback on their startup ideas. Solving your problem only works if others are having the same issue, so start working on the idea and see if there are any interested locals.

As for online connections, social media can be superficial at times, but I have connected with many amazing entrepreneurs and have kept in touch with them. I joined the Feedbackers.biz team after they found me online, and am now working on another startup with one of the contacts I made. It is definitely possible to make meaningful connections online, and even work together.

Having control over your startup is a huge benefit of going solo, but having a great team outweighs it. You need a team for perspective and different skills sets, so you should focus on networking off & online. Engage more people and look to make friends, not just contacts. It's important to spread the word that you are looking for a team, but don't dismiss anybody if you think they aren't a good match because you never know who their friends are.

Being part of a community can make a huge difference. So it's worth investing some of your time and efforts into supporting what there already is or opening new doors.

Where I live, someone had tried to get an OpenCoffee startup networking meetup off the ground, but it never really got into its stride. I like OpenCoffee a lot when you have the right mix of people, and I like the Pitch & Mix format we founded here by learning from that experience.

For casual co-working, sometimes all it takes is to 'adopt' a cafe with good coffee and reliable WiFi. Or maybe you can get a Jelly going.

My guess is that you're not the only person in your area to have the kind of aspirations you do. But you may be the only one sufficiently motivated to start building community.

It won't happen overnight. But it won't happen ever unless someone takes the first step.